Personally, I’m looking forward to moving forward.
But in order to do that, there’s a few things I need to get off my chest.
Things that have been taking up way too much space in my head and heart.
I’ve spent more than a few nights tossing and turning these past few weeks. Even my tried and true method of going through all the things I am grateful for failed to send me back into dreamland.
I believe many of you are feeling the same.
Too much hate in the world right now.
People can be so cruel.
Here’s what pushed me over the edge last week…
A friend shared a meme on Facebook about teaching.
In a nutshell, it said the best thing a parent could do for a teacher is to send a respectful student to school.
To this, she received the following comment:
What do you expect if the teacher is telling the kids that they are descended from apes and have no eternal value? If you don’t respect the children, they won’t respect you. All people have been created by God almighty and have extreme value. Please don’t throw that away!
She, being a much nicer person (and a much better Christian) than myself, calmly responded to him.
Sorry […] I didn’t realize it was you.
This is what’s causing me to lose sleep.
We all have opinions. I get it.
We don’t always agree. I get that too.
Sorry…I didn’t realize it was you?
Like that comment would be okay if you didn’t know the person?
I really hope it wouldn’t.
I just don’t get it.
I think we have lost touch with how much the words we write or the things we share on social media impact others.
And this goes not only for the people who follow us that we don’t know, but for the people we do know and care about.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have conversations, but I am suggesting that social media may not be the best place to have those conversations.
That’s my wishy-washy was of saying this needs to stop.
So many hard feelings are created (and many without us knowing we are doing it), impacting our relationships with others.
A friend of mine reposted the following FB memory from three years ago, feeling it (sadly) still applied today. She gave me her permission to share it with you.
I do not care what your political affiliation is. I do not care what religion you practice, I do not care what race you are. I care about respect. I am saddened that although I am faced daily with your thoughts and words on politics and all the anger that is expressed in it, you, many friends, do not care that you offend me on a daily basis. I will not voice it. Frankly, I have been afraid to voice it for fear of your response. I am hurt often by things that are said that go against my core values, but I do not share that. I have heartfelt opinions myself, but I do not share them because they are just that-opinions of mine. I do not want to hurt others by pushing my opinions. I know they are not shared by many. All I can do is offer respect to any one I come in contact with.An Oh-So-Wise Friend of Mine
I keep trying to figure out how social media has gone from creating connections to fueling feelings of anger and hurt.
Perhaps part of the problem is that it’s too easy to hit the SHARE button. It’s too easy to hit the LIKE button (which, btw, allows your friends to see what you’ve liked).
Unfortunately, for many, ‘information’ is shared or liked without knowing how truthful what we are sharing actually is.
Case in point?
I went to my FB page and found the most recent political post shared with me (and not just me…everybody…I don’t want you to think I am special).
When I fact checked it on mediabiasfactcheck.com, this is what I found about the source:
Shouldn’t have been shared, yet it was.
We need to be more responsible when it comes to social media. We need to fact check. We need to verify.
This is what divides us. This is what fuels hatred.
And I don’t want to be a part of it.
As my ‘Oh-So-Wise’ friend wrote, we need to be respectful of one another, no matter what our differences.
Anybody with me?