One Word: What’s Been Standing in Your Way?

Your ONE WORD is personal.

You picked it for a reason.

Perhaps it came from a place of hope. A place where you saw the possibility of growth. Of making your life better.

Maybe it came from a “Come to Jesus” moment like this reader (disclaimer…the following are exerts):

I was sitting in the hot tub on Friday afternoon after a long three day week.  Eyes closed.  Head back.  Legs floating.  Trying to relax, breathe and focus only on my breathing, but I kept going back to my One Word search.  That’s when the word found me and I’ve been thinking about it since.  NOW.  Just NOW.  It works for everything!

I was recently diagnosed with severe sleep apnea…Since then, I’ve had some Come to Jesus Moments with my health.  This is all I have.  Now.  If I don’t take care of myself now, someone will have to do it for me within a few short years.  
 
I truly think NOW is a word I can live by.  
And this one:

I have been thinking about my word since I read your post…I feel like my life is moving forward in a NEW direction. A healthier, happier, more positive, NEW direction.

NEW…

Body-new exercise program, new food choices=weight control
Mind- look for positive things in each day, be happy
Soul-Thank God for each day.

I am looking at my life as a NEW beginning. I want to become healthier.

I feel NEW and hope to continue.

Or perhaps it came from a feeling of discontent.

Like mine.

I picked my word (ACTION) because I felt I was watching the world pass me by. I was tired of observing. I felt a need to be doing. A need to be making a difference.

I saw people figuring out who they were and what they wanted out of life.

I saw people taking risks and chasing dreams.

I saw people following their passion.

I saw people making a positive difference in this world.

I saw people fail.

And get. Right. Back. Up.

And well, I was a more than a tad bit envious.

And I wondered, why not me?

Yet deep down, I knew why.

What had I been doing to get myself where I wanted to go?

Had I been writing daily? Nope.

Had I investigated starting my own business? Nope again.

Had I established relationships? Negatory.

Had I researched how to go about publishing? Absolutely not.

Kinda hard to make things happen when you don’t do anything to make things happen.

And to be honest, my excuse was God.

Everything in His own time.

When the timing was right, He would make it happen.

Let go and let God

And while that’s true—I now understand I need to be part of the equation. Through my experiences (or ACTIONS) He is getting me ready for what comes next.

So ACTION is in my control.

The results?

Well, those are in God’s.

Seems embarrassingly obvious now.

I’ve taken a good hard look at myself and identified what is standing in my way of taking ACTION. (I’ve come up with three. Actually 2 1/2 cuz I feel #1 and #2 kinda go hand in hand)

  1. I’m a perfectionist. Needing to achieve perfection in all you do sucks the fun out of most things (especially writing). Sometimes it prevents me from taking the first step. I’m so wrapped up in thinking about the end product (which needs to be perfect) rather than immersing myself in the process (which is going to be messy), I become overwhelmed and opt out of doing anything.
  2. Fear. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. Needing a step by step guide to get me to where I want to go. Venturing into the unknown is scary. And yet I understand failure is not a bad thing. It’s not. It’s the opportunity to grow and learn. Maybe my biggest issue with this is being perceived as a failure by others. Yep. I said it. I worry about what other people think of me. So fear of not being accepted by others goes in here as well.
  3. I’m an introvert. You know. The person who prefers the safety of their own home to the big, scary world where interactions with other humans are expected. The person who hates small talk and unorganized settings with casual acquaintances. The person who is more comfortable observing than participating. The person who is anxious when put into new situations.

So…what to do…what to do?

Well, I guess I’m coming full circle here.

I’m reminding myself (daily)…it’s not about perfection. It’s about the process. It’s about God.

I am dedicating myself to writing daily. Not publishing daily. Writing daily. And I always (well, almost always) have a notebook with me.

And although this one is going to be super challenging for me, I need to seek out social situations. One reader gave me some great ideas on places to volunteer my time to build connections while honoring my passions.

I am well aware that avoiding anxiety producing situations is not teaching me how to cope with feeling anxious.

If you have any other ideas, I am open to being inspired!

And if you’d like to share what’s standing in your way, I’d love to hear that too!

 

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