This past weekend was a whirlwind.
Thursday afternoon, we attached an empty U-Haul to the back of the vehicle (because apparently it’s $400 cheaper to rent round trip than one way— $400!!), and headed to Wisconsin.
Our Christmas decorations (among other items) were still in the storage garage and we were running out of weekends to make the trip back home.
After making it through (actually around) Atlanta, we grabbed a quick dinner at Chick-fil-A. I’m a fan of their super food side salad (this was the large btw). And their fries. Also a large.
We spent all day Friday driving, finally rolling into Neenah Friday night. We dropped off the vehicle to get an oil change. Aaron was there to greet Reed.
Alli (you know…the one we deserted when we moved to Georgia) picked us up and we headed to Zacateca’s! I’ve missed Zacateca’s almost as much as I’ve missed Alli. 😉
After dinner, we visited Reed’s parents, before headed back to Alli’s apartment.
We were up early the next morning—lots to do, and not a lot of time to do it.
First stop: Happy Bellies.
The rest of the morning was spent at Fleet Farm (not kidding), visiting my mom, and loading up on a few goodies downtown Neenah. (Notice the white stuff?)
We stopped at Great Harvest for some Quinnie treats, and Red Door Mercantile for a few Karen treats.
The rest of the day was spent loading the U-Haul (in the cold) and helping Alli with some things around the apartment.
Before we knew it, it was time to hit the road.
Saturday just happened to be our 28th anniversary, so we celebrated in style. I’ve missed Taco John’s just about as much as I missed Zacateca’s. (Don’t judge me until you have shoved your potato ole’s into a bean burrito and smothered them with picante.)
No expenses were spared. We even had dessert.
We have a history of interesting anniversary meals.
Take our 2013 anniversary, for example.
A romantic dinner at DTW in the Delta wing. Me with a broken arm.
At any rate, we stopped for the night in Columbus, Indiana. (I’ve been noticing there are an awful lot of states with a Columbus.)
Breakfast the next morning was a stop at Panera. I’m usually an oatmeal person. Bagel was okay. Smoothie was a bit sweeter than what I prefer.
We drove past the point of hunger so we could eat at a Which Wich. Can I just say that any sub place that offers a black bean burger AND hummus AND avocado has my undying affections for life? (And yes…I do get all three on my sub.)
We finally made it back home (feels weird to type that), unloaded the vehicle, hauled this chair upstairs, and got some snuggle time with Quinn.
So 2,000 miles over the course of four days.
As you can imagine, that was a lot of thinking time.
This is what was troubling me:
We need to do better.
We need to be better.
And not just for ourselves.
For our kids.
And by ‘we’, I am most certainly including myself.
Our actions (or at times, the lack of them) speak louder than the repeated lectures we give our kids.
We are sending our children some rather unsettling messages about what is acceptable in our society, even though we may give lip service saying something is not.
- Bullying. Apparently, it just depends on who is doing the bullying and who is being bullied. We ignore, dismiss, tolerate, or even justify the actions of the bully if we like them, share similar beliefs, or if we don’t care for the person being bullied.
- Winning at all cost. It doesn’t matter how you win, just as long as you win. In the world of politics, it’s okay to speak falsely of others if it helps you win. In the world of sports, it’s okay to be dishonest if it helps your team win.
- Self-servitude. The world revolves around you. You are more important than anyone else. Your opinion matters more. Your needs are greater. If people don’t think like you, they are either evil or stupid. When criticized, we lash out instead of taking a look at ourself. We blame others, elevating ourselves by putting others down. We speak loudly instead of listening attentively.
- Disrespect. We really have a hard time keeping our mouths shut (or maybe I should say our fingers still). What words come out of your mouth or words get typed when you are upset? What do you say when a teacher ‘gives’ your child a poor grade? When your waiter brings the wrong order? When you’re in a hurry and the car ahead of you is going the speed limit in a no passing zone? When your candidate doesn’t win? When a ref makes a ‘bad’ call at your child’s sporting event? Who hears you? We need to be more reflective than reactive.
- Judging others. We do this. All. The. Time. We make assumptions based on how people dress, the color of their skin, their political affiliation, their religion, their weight, etc. What we need to be do, is take the time to get to know people—know their story, understand where they are coming from, and accept them where they are. Maybe then, we would stop being so mean to each other. Besides, our assumptions say a lot more about who we are, than who somebody else is.